Exactly a decade ago (on July 7, 1999), I started my married life as a new bride in a 500-sft single-bedroom apartment, paying Rs. 2000 towards the rent; and it still feels like yesterday! We've since then progressed to staying in a 1200-sft 2-bedroom flat, and then moved on to own a huge 1600-sft 3-bedroom flat.
And now, I'm back to staying in a single bedroom 500-sft house paying Rs. 2000 as the rent. :-) It's like starting all over again... right from buying utensils, pans and tawas, to selecting a new refrigerator and mixer-grinder, to debating about what kind of almirah to choose - everything feels the same as it felt 10 years ago.
Indeed life has come a full circle - with so many twists and turns in between, bitter-sweet memories, a naughty daughter brought into my life, another child awaiting adoption, a village waiting to be adopted, and a countryside sea-facing villa waiting to be constructed...
So what has changed now? A lot, I must say. I'm slowly realizing what it takes to be a single parent... understanding my daughter (and her needs that I was blissfully oblivious to so far) takes a lot of patience, energy, and time! I am yet to analyze where she gets all the energy to bounce about, run around, make mischief, and play 24X7 untiringly and effortlessly! Oh yes, before the rumour mills start working overtime, let me confirm that I'm still very much married (this is what my husband had to say on Father's Day) - and today I'm all set to celebrate our 10-year-journey together!
And I'm also realizing that long-distance relationships are difficult to maintain, and they take their toll on everything else. Suddenly there is loneliness, irritation, anger, hatred, mood swings, extreme reactions... my lovelorn soul wants to be soothed, and fed with its daily dose of love.
Nevertheless, as Saraswati Chandra pointed out a long while ago, Pyaar se bhi zaroori kayi kaam hai, pyaar sab kuch nahin zindagi ke liye...
'Such is life, and devotion to cause' - as a close friend rightly pointed out recently. And, truly, there are miles to go before I sleep... Yawn! And Amen!